No Do-Overs

americancorvus:

omnomanon:

americancorvus:

So I was bored as hell and started playing on Pinterest last night and stumbled into this. I honestly can’t believe the shit this woman is spewing and it just shows a lack of self respect, forget respect for others. Well, you know something? No one has ever said I had sense enough to walk away…

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I’m amazed at how utterly clueless this Chrystal is.  Firstly, pregnancy is often the only safe way for a woman to exit mob/gang-culture.  I’ll admit to being somewhat ignorant on the nuances of the Yakuza but I imagine it’s a universal taboo to exact vengeance on a woman who is carrying the offspring of a fellow member.  In short, having this baby may have been this woman’s only option.  Not that that matters, because her reasons for having a baby out of wedlock are nobody’s fucking concern.  She had a baby, and a beautiful baby at that, and she clearly loves that baby- she may have even married the father, or another man, but it doesn’t matter because it’s her life and she’s making the best of it after a life that must have been difficult.  That’s inspirational.  That is truly kickass. 

Secondly, the concept of the “normal” nuclear family has really only been around for a hundred years or so.  Prior, marriage was more of a business transaction arranged by men as means of a transfer of property (the woman) from the previous owner (her father) to a new owner (her husband)- hence doweries, etc  The woman was her husband’s property… thus her children were also his property. 

Furthermore the concept of a bastard applies mostly to old inheritance laws- an illegitimate firstborn could not inherit his father’s property because he did not come from his father’s own property.  So while ye nobilitie of old may have had serious issues with it, the modern era (i.e. the one we live in) really has no issues with it.  Additionally, most of those laws no longer apply because, you know, we live in the future now.

The point I’m making is that citing archaic property law is hardly a decent reason for bashing two perfectly rational people who decide to remain unwed even if they had the audacity to produce children.  We have child support for that now if the father decides to duck his responsibilities (which Robin assured you he did not).  We also write wills for that now.  Glory be, I could even will my belongings to that nice hobo who walked me to my car once- I don’t gots to birth him or adopt him or nothing.

I find it baffling that any woman could espouse these terrible times- where a woman couldn’t even voice an opinion contrary to her husband, where a woman was not permitted to vote or earn money for herself, where a woman could be beaten and raped at the whim of her owner and systemically denied any recourse- as being the ideal we should strive for and then attack children with a term that has no legitimate bearing on modern society other than being used to hurt the very people she claims to be advocating.

So in short- it’s kind of hard to hear Chrystal all the way from the nineteenth century.  I wonder how she was even posting on Pintrest.  Maybe she has a time machine.

You know I love you for reasons! >.<

As someone that Chrystal would consider a “bastard”, I really, really hold the hope in my heart of hearts that people like Chrystal are just part of the very nutty, very stupid, and unfortunately very,very,very loudly vocal minority of “christians” that promote that sort of hateful, antiquated vitriol.  It may just be me, but… I don’t think that’s how the “love one another as I have loved you” advise works.